Becoming MEL
Posted on: September 25, 2011
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“When a woman is wise, then she’d better hide it; people do appreciate a person with humor, but with wisdom, they do not!”
– “Becoming Jane Austen“
There are many times that I was thinking whether it is a social consequence or a nature for a woman to be an ordinary person of the world, with nothing but the responsibilities to take care of their husbands and children in their minds.
The truth always come with two points, which are absolutely controversial. So it might be proper to define women as a group of contradictory people. Beyond the nature of women’s hearts, at least I believe the nature of women’s minds are equal to men’s, even sometimes exceed theirs, as an example Jane Austen.
However, another truth is she might sacrifice more than a man if she decide to take a man’s duties. The sacrifice could be a property, a wealthy husband or a true love. The reason is she does not agree with the saying “women had better hide their wisdom” and obviously she has discovered her own unique wisdom and decided to show it.
Unfortunately, not too many women are like her in this material world. Mostly it seems like a stronger nature called “weak” or “lazy” make them obey the men they rely on. “Is it possible to be both a good wife and a good author?” Jane asked, if it’s to you, what would you say?
Life is imperfect and that’s why it push us seek ways to make it perfect. Yet it is probably just a trick for us, because “you will always sacrifice an hour to read a chapter for watching a movie”. God sets a time line on everybody’s life, but he doesn’t set the way you spend it. So be yourself, at least get one of the two apples you could choose from.
And for me, becoming me, as I always have been doing, no hesitation.
– OzMel
Recovery Emergency
Posted on: September 17, 2011
This is a text written by a lazy girl lying on her soft warm bed. The problem seems a bit severe these days: she can not fall asleep any more. Now let’s try to find out the reasons for her and figure out some good suggestions hopefully.
- Firstly, she is under big pressure now by making efforts to make a high marks from the uni. Obviously it didn’t go well since the beginning of this semester, she is afraid of being a 5 slope student.
- Secondly, the new job is good, and could be better if it’s does not need a high GPA which is highly linked to the NO.1 problem.
- Thirdly, private question. She is trying to get involved with a serious relationship, which has never happen since she came to this big new continent.
All in all, she can’t fall asleep by herself at every single nice quiet night in her warm bed just because she has too much confusion and worries in her mind. Now, time for bed, she is still tying, she is trying to get rid of this shit.
Take a deep breath, talk to herself：
- There is nothing worth losing sleep at this stage;
- The only way to solve a problem is to do it not to worry about it;
- Tomorrow is another day- this saying imply another meaning: You don’t know what’s gonna happen tomorrow, so plan yourself but don’t plan the others;
- Sleeping well then you could be more beautiful.
I guess that’s pretty much enough to convince her to have a good sleep tonight.
Good night, sweet dream!!!
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Harriage
Posted on: July 31, 2011
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It’s strange that I have thought a lot about marriage these days, am I old? Maybe, at the 22nd year of my life.
At the very beginning of my kid’s period, I thought probably I can live without a spouse all over the life. By that time I don’t understand anything about marriage, family, sex and domestic dissension, coz I was only 9.
Then as I found my body started to change as a normal girl, my mind also changed. “I’ll go and get a fantastic looking and extremely smart man for the rest of my life.” What a good wish and big ambition. Well, probably that could only happened in the romance. By then I was 16.
Now, the 22-year-girl starts doubting again, perhaps a woman’s life is not only about marriage, at least not all about.
APCS Postscript
Posted on: July 12, 2011
It was one of the greatest July in my life because of the 2011 
Asia-Pacific Cities Summit.
As a young delegate, I would say that I have been so lucky to be sponsored by my uni to attend this great conference.
Three dramatic things that I would like to share with you my friends from this experience.
Firstly, take every single chance. Nothing is impossible, I would not be able to shake the hand with the Lord Mayor if I had not typed the application for the sponsorship word by word. I would be able to meet so many diversified and amazing friends if I didn’t check the university email regularly. Sometimes things just happened better than you expect, so take every opportunity, you will be the next lucky person.
Secondly, network equals net worth. Can you imagine only in three days I met more than 100 people and got half of their contacts and quarter of them became my friends. Amazing, now I could easily pick up a number to plan for a drink at Friday night I guess.
Finally, being perceptive and qualified. Gucci & LV are loved by women not only because they are perceptive but also qualified. There is a similar logic behind relationships between people. Assuming you met a good-looking young woman who is graceful in manner, what will you do next? Get the contact and catch her up, absolutely. Then you might have two different further discoveries, impressive or disappointed. Obviously that depends on whether she conversations extraordinary or speaking vulgarity.
Thanks for my fantastic mates from APCS, Rachell, Kate, Anton, Stu and Allen… I had a great time with you, actually one of the biggest moment in the life, I am glad you were all there^^
Remarkable day!! Thanks APCS
Posted on: July 6, 2011
Great, that’s a great d
ay!
Suddenly everything became so clear and I get myself back on track. It’s even too sudden to be believed.
Now I can confirm where I belong to and what I am pursuing. By having a great late for 2011 APCS, my great day started. By the time I arrive at The Edge, the first speech was nearly half done, however, I could smell the sense of a great day from the other half of the speech presented by a beautiful oz young woman who has worked in China for year. And she said,”Get Involved, be engaged!”
Have you ever been in a situation that you didn’t start to talk one person till a long time after you met and knew each other, and then you found it should have happened earlier in your life? Well, I did today. Thanks for my dear fake Russian classmate Anton, you made me so happy today not only because you are the only child in your family.
The whole session of Young Professionals went pretty well and was ended by 3 fantastic presentation which were made by 3 fantastic presenters, with one of them I’d really appreciate Julian Simmonds, Chairman for Public & Active Transport of Queensland. You must be very curious about what happened? Now let me tell you.
Back the time when I lived in 23 Durness St, Kenmore, one of the most annoying thing that I had to do each day was to climb through a gap with a dry creek to approach the bus station. Even if now I moved, but what are you going to do if the chairman of the transport department is in front of you now? I will choose to talk to him about that and I did.
I am quite happy that I was brave enough to talk in front of people and made them laugh a bit as well. But what really impress me was the business card sent into my hand and he said,”Please email me about the site of the bus station and I will get the problem solved.” Fabulous, awesome, now I might another reason of trying to be an Australian Citizen.
I might do something well to the Kenmore state high school students who always travel through that tough shortcut, and something well to myself as well as Ms. Cherry Fu.
Anyway, that was a great fantastic day! Tomorrow is gonna be another exciting day, fake Russian, waiting for me!!
On the 4th of July
Posted on: July 5, 2011
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The first time I saw you
You were lighting up the sky
Like bright flashing fireworks On the 4th of July
And I won’t forget, I don’t regret
Losing myself deep inside of your eyes
But then I remember for the rest of my life…
Starting with this “4th of July”, a special day for Americans and for me as well.
1o years ago, in high school, a boy said to me:”I can’t explain why I like you, but that’s just a kinda feeling which I couldn’t explain.” From then I understand how it feels when falling in love with somebody. And that’s the first time, I felt the magic of love and understood ‘Do not say a word after the lost treasure understand’.
4 years ago, in the college, a boy said to me:”Thanks for everything you did to me, but sorry I can’t be with you coz I have no feelings of love for you.” The first time I let myself chasing after the true love I am dying with, the first time I have been hurt so deeply. Then I got it ‘ Love does not just did not come, do not accept wronged their own pseudo-love’.
Today, on the 4th of July 2011, however,I said to a boy:”The feelings of love should be from the first sight when you meet me, if you didn’t have then you don’t really love me.” He doubted, which meant he really didn’t. And I understood, from the beginning, this is something wrong, but why did I still let it go? What am I expecting? What am I concealing?
I think I’ve lost who I was. Too much knowledge of love is not a good thing. I’d rather treat it as a game than a relationship.
It is not hard to decide what you don’t like, but it’s difficult to find what you like. But even when you find something you really like, it doesn’t mean you will own it. Sometimes because of size, sometimes price. Finally you might get something you don’t really like but only okay.
That is the story of life I guess.
Now in the maze of love, I am looking for a way out, what should be my next step? Attempting or waiting. Can anybody come and tell me which way to go? I am totally lost in the myth of love and I don’t think I could figure it out by myself.
Nobody is perfect, I am not, you are not, he is not, she is not. But I swear you want to find a person who thinks you are perfect to him and spend the rest your life with. Me too.
Mr. Right, I don’t where you are, and when you are gonna come into my life, I don’t care if you are a handsome boy or old man now, but I do care whether I am perfect in your eyes.
First day: Bush Walking
Posted on: June 26, 2011
Today the 26th of June, a sunshine day of northern Queensland, in the morning I did something amazing coz I got up at 5am. Quickly setting up then I jumped on the earliest 444 Mogill Buz, Airport Train and the airplane took me to the wonderland- Childers.
Can you imagine that one day you live in a house on top of the hills with all self- service water, electricity, vegetables and air- conditioner? That was what I saw today, and luckily that’s where I live now.
After a breif lunch Betty & Graeme took me on my first bush walking– into their private natural botanical garden. We started walking from their house, took a big circle around and then came back to the start- point. Something unbelievable was that the whole the area that I have just walked around is all their property. This is very shocked for a Chinese and may be can never happened to in China unless you are a billionare or a government senior official.
Graeme asked me what I like the most of Australia, I said two things- environment and government, I mean the system of government when I said ‘government’. True, in China, a normal worker can’t even afford a single apartment, let alone such a large land. However, what we need is just a apartment- for which we can not approach with any available assistance.
Sorry haven’t took any pictures today, will update it later on tomorrow.
Good night my friends! All the best!
Love under Ice
Posted on: June 17, 2011
Let me start from th
e movie I watched tonight “Bridemaids” – one of the greatest comedy I’ve ever seen. It’s lucky to watch such a brilliant one before the first exam – especially because time is in the winter.
What’s the first word that you think of Winter? “Snow” – sorry but the city called Brisbane never show you that, at least has never showed; “Cold” – not really so cold here at this time, only a little chilly during the night, make sure you have a warm bed; or “Love” – seems like doesn’t matter of winter at all, but for me, winter could be a season of love, not only for this year.
During the winter, a warm bed could be warmer, a hot chocolate could be hotter and even a frozen heart, by a pair of warm hands, may be broken from the ice.
Thanks for the one who did all of those to me!
And I guess, that’s pretty enough to make me feel happy now, if the one in my heart never come out again.
Thanks for breaking the ice-covered on my heart, but don’t break the heart!
The Fate and the Hint
Posted on: June 7, 2011
I have never believe in a word called ‘Destiny‘ or ‘Fate’ before I compromised with life.
The question is “Is it a butterfly deep in my heart now?”
A few years ago I watch a movie called “Destiny”, which is still saved in my hard drive today, that made me started to compromise with but also expect about the fortune. We don’t have to believe in our destinies, but probably it’s a good way to follow the hints hidden in lives.
If you miss the last bus, maybe you’re gonna meet a person who might change your life on the next bus, or not when you don’t pay attention to the world outside yourself.
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A Little Sum on May
Posted on: May 18, 2011
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Time comes into May of 2011. It’s a month of luck, it’s a time of love.
Still remember vividly in a May of several years ago, what happened to me was quite different from today. But there is one thing the same – they’ve both changed my life.
In summary, from that May to this May, I performed a bit self-evolution.
The first thing I learned was a calm attitude to the world. Since nobody knows what’s gonna happen tomorrow – sometimes a perfect meet, sometimes a painful experience as an example of losing a close kin. What’s the solution? Yep, make our hearts bigger then make our lives easier.
The second lesson was how to enjoy- enjoy the life, the year, the day, the hour, and the moment. Withholding a belief of nothing is better than what you already have, I eventually figure it out that there is no point to look back no matter it’s a shame or proud, and it not really suggested to have too much hope but a hopeful attitude might be advised. So, no yesterday, not too much about tomorrow, pay 99% of our attention at today, at this moment coz life is not about decide what for dinner before the breakfast, but how the bite of the sandwich tasted in your mouth now.
The next one, kinda an enemy of the second one and probably the most difficult one, was to learn to control – control our desires. My father was always telling me never lose my dream under whatever condition. Seven years ago I had a dream to study abroad, seven years later I made it come true. Thanks Dad, from your spirit I learned how to fight for my life without any external assistance. However, please forgive me dad, at this stage I might do a bit change of what I adopted from you coz I realized that to make a dream come true by fighting also means a huge sacrifice of something else- sometimes $1, sometimes 1sec, sometimes a friend, sometimes a love, sometimes the whole life as what you taught me. So now I decide to cut down 50% of my ambition and transfer it into a low pace rhythm. I’d rather make life as a small spring as what my name indicates than a big river coz I want to share more time with my dear mum and friend and hopefully a perfect man someday.
Comes to the little end, the last one that I learned or maybe better to say attained was a word called “Patience“. How come if you wake up by the dam alarm at 6am with a pair of eyes and know there is one lecture, one yoga session, one assignment, one appointment and 4 hours working to go through during the day. “I am fucked!” I would probably said that and then go back to the warm bed without showing 3 or 4 of the plans one year ago. But now, maximum 1 absence I promise. The hint I get is don’t look forward, make it happened as what we planed is not difficult if we focus on every individual item, and the most important skill would be ” being patient”. Time never joke with us if we treat it well, so never waste it on blaming and hesitating.
Finally, my dear friends, somebody has asked me what my religion is, well, honestly I don’t have any religion, but I believe we are what we believe.
OzMel 